Success ke baad ka plan sabke paas hai ... lekin agar galti se fail ho gaye ... toh failure se kaise deal karna hai ... koi baat hi nahi karna chahta. - Chhichhore
In recent times, I saw several movies on taboo subject and it has been great to know one has started opening up on issues they never discussed. One such taboo is Death.
In 19th century, people were well aware and confronted on this topic openly as life expectancy was around 48 (in 1901) and they planned for living life better by being aware of the fact. Since, world has seen two world wars, people have been hesitant in discussing death.
I'm sure, we all agree that death is the ultimate truth of life. We see almost everyone is talking about life - healthy food, exercise, mental well-being to avoid the unavoidable but it feels uneasy to even touch the topic of death. Why are we so ignorant of the fact that we have limited time with us?
Since childhood, we're taught to deal with different situations in life but the thing which we're not taught is how to deal with loss. That loss in form of death can have devastating impact on a person - emotionally and financially.
We plan for our education, job or business, marriage, kids, their education but mostly miss on the death of self or the loved one's. One may argue, why think too much about death rather we should focus on living life. I agree to certain extent but what if you loose someone in the mid of living your life and you're not ready for the consequences. For most of the people, being ready is restricted to having term insurance plans. Have you really thought of the emotional aspect of it? Monetary loss can be recovered but can you do something about person's loss PERMANENTLY? Have you ever thought how your life would be without that person or any plan to deal with it?
Having lost my both parents at very unexpected time, I personally have gone through loss. The most important elements of my family, i.e., my parents are not with me. I don't recall even a single instance discussing about what happens after they are gone. Both the times, my emotional self was at stake. I touched the lowest in my life and I lost the purpose of living. All I could hear from others was - Be strong (trust me, nothing hurts more than these two words). Why couldn't I handle the loss? Well, I don't think there is any particular method in which I could have dealt with it better. But, I strongly feel if we would have talked about it like we generally talk about what should we do in life or as simple as planning a vacation, it would have been little better. State of denial that it can't happen with me and unpreparedness (no exact way for embracing the impact) but atleast being aware that death of loved one's is one of the things that needs to be fit in living one's life.
This topic might seems little uncomfortable to many and one should value the presence of their loved one's. One should never leave a chance to express the feelings how much you actually love them. Try to live life to the fullest and create good memories together.
To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure. J.K. Rowling
In recent times, I saw several movies on taboo subject and it has been great to know one has started opening up on issues they never discussed. One such taboo is Death.
In 19th century, people were well aware and confronted on this topic openly as life expectancy was around 48 (in 1901) and they planned for living life better by being aware of the fact. Since, world has seen two world wars, people have been hesitant in discussing death.
I'm sure, we all agree that death is the ultimate truth of life. We see almost everyone is talking about life - healthy food, exercise, mental well-being to avoid the unavoidable but it feels uneasy to even touch the topic of death. Why are we so ignorant of the fact that we have limited time with us?
Since childhood, we're taught to deal with different situations in life but the thing which we're not taught is how to deal with loss. That loss in form of death can have devastating impact on a person - emotionally and financially.
We plan for our education, job or business, marriage, kids, their education but mostly miss on the death of self or the loved one's. One may argue, why think too much about death rather we should focus on living life. I agree to certain extent but what if you loose someone in the mid of living your life and you're not ready for the consequences. For most of the people, being ready is restricted to having term insurance plans. Have you really thought of the emotional aspect of it? Monetary loss can be recovered but can you do something about person's loss PERMANENTLY? Have you ever thought how your life would be without that person or any plan to deal with it?
Having lost my both parents at very unexpected time, I personally have gone through loss. The most important elements of my family, i.e., my parents are not with me. I don't recall even a single instance discussing about what happens after they are gone. Both the times, my emotional self was at stake. I touched the lowest in my life and I lost the purpose of living. All I could hear from others was - Be strong (trust me, nothing hurts more than these two words). Why couldn't I handle the loss? Well, I don't think there is any particular method in which I could have dealt with it better. But, I strongly feel if we would have talked about it like we generally talk about what should we do in life or as simple as planning a vacation, it would have been little better. State of denial that it can't happen with me and unpreparedness (no exact way for embracing the impact) but atleast being aware that death of loved one's is one of the things that needs to be fit in living one's life.
This topic might seems little uncomfortable to many and one should value the presence of their loved one's. One should never leave a chance to express the feelings how much you actually love them. Try to live life to the fullest and create good memories together.
To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure. J.K. Rowling
Beautiful post.but I think kids can never never listen their parents if ever they try to explain the plan after their death,and as a kid one cannot start this conversation themselves..it's difficult to the extent of impossible.we ll never accept this hard fact of life,that each day we are moving towards death,once we can imagine ourselves ,but when we have to think for our loved once ,mere thought of it will make us shiver.
ReplyDeleteI agree to it 100% and I've experienced such situation personally but that's the point - we should talk on a positive note.
DeleteYes we will be prepared well definitely... But i feel personally we are so much manipulated to behave in a certain way on some loss... Some credit goes to the media and some to the people reaction on death.
ReplyDeleteIf we see people handling death in a better way... We will learn that too.
Yes. That's so true.
DeleteOn point, I understand how we are never taught to tackle such circumstances. It must be discussed and it must be put forward. Thanks for putting out your thoughts. More strength to you and to anyone who lost their loved ones.
ReplyDeleteTo all of us, it matters.
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