Leave the shore!

It was a cold and chilly morning back in December 2016 when my sweet little niece,  Aadhya started her nursery schooling. I was amazed to see her easiness on the very first day getting ready to catch her school bus. Rome was not built in a day and so was her courage and confidence to go to an unknown school, around unknown teacher and classmates. What made her transition from always-be-with-parents to be in a complete different environment? The secret was nothing but the preparation, the visualisation of how cool the school environment would be. Feeding her little brain with the greatest of all her ears wanted to hear. You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose the sight of the shore. Now she was ready for unleashing the unexplored path of her world with such an excitement.

Aadhya

Remembering, good old days I was never the same. In my slightest light of memory, I remember crying my heart out while going to my school on very first day. But over the period of time, 12 years to be specific I had the courage to say-  Ha Papa, mujhe Kota Jana hai was one of the courageous statement I had given to my father besides Ha Papa, mai shaadi k liye ready hu. I still wonder what made me say the prior (Disclamer: Readers, please do not ask question about the latter). I was ready to lose the sight of the shore, to accomplish what I was really passionate about. Was that the ultimate goal of my life? Obviously no. But hell yeah, for that phase of life.

The ultimate goal is to live the life to the fullest. For that, one needs to think big and start small. Having a long term goal by creating a small milestone makes it easier for an individual to take that courageous step one at a time.

The sooner you let go old cheese, the sooner you find new cheese. Do not stay longer in your comfort zone: be it your school, college, office, home, etc. To see the magic of thinking big you need step forward, have the courage to leave few things which you love for your short term comfort. Few say - Life is a journey, so what's the point of getting stuck along the roadside just to have  golgappa (since you love it the most) throughout your whole life. Wouldn't it make sense to keep moving ahead to taste all the flavours and cuisines the world has to provide you along the way?

So, closing my words by - You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose the sight of the shore. Visualise your beautiful life journey, it will surely pump you with courage to beat off all the odds, fight all the pirates. Remember to invest in experiences rather than assets while crossing the ocean. You're smart enough to guess which will stay forever. 

The arranged love story of mine

Kya yaar, ek ladki bhi nahi pata paye - a best friend quoted me with too much disappointment. The fact in the previous statement gave me momentary pain but had the harsh reality which made me introspect. Though I’ve my version of WHY any point of time, I thought of viewing it in a different angle. After days of analysis, sadly I ended up with The arranged love story of mine - yet to start, but definitely on my way. I’ve mentioned my weakness in the subject of “The Love" several times. Infact I would say, I’ve never opted for this subject. But given my previous academic records, I would definitely have fun in the arranged love story of mine. This time, it would not be theoretical but 99% practical- I can bet on that!

I believe mid-twenties is being tough for almost everyone. No matter on what topic you’re discussing with your friends, colleagues, family members, you always end up with “Marriage”. Obviously, there are other topics as well but Marriage dominates all of them and almost everyone gets activated and has resonance of thoughts. 

The most common statements being - “Yaar, mere Ghar wale dhund rahe hai”, “Koi dhang ka ladka/ladki nahi mil raha/rahi”, “Mujhe nahi karna shaadi” and so on. This has been incremental starting from school subject selection to choosing college and then the job and next Marriage. I am sure - Why our society is designed in such a way is the most common question we all have. More than pressure in real life, we 25ish people are overburdened with the posts of people getting married, going for honeymoon, having kid(s), etc. (No particular sequence of events intended by writer).

Going with the flow, since I couldn’t hit my love story yet, I would definitely create my love story soon given the pre-requisites of getting it arranged. Well, it sounds like now I am open for proposals. Hell yes, I am. In Julius Caesar by William Shakespeare Act 3 Scene I, the death of Caesar is justified by quoting - Why, he that cuts off twenty years of life, Cuts off so many years of fearing death. Not the best analogy to give right now but still holds good that by marrying soon, years can be cut wondering who that person would be. Naa jaane mere bina bechari kaha bhatak rahi hogi. Hoping for the best so that I can write The arranged love story of mine soon.

The hugs!

Oh, the wait is over! With the very first step in the home, the most beautiful lady in the world for me comes closer to me and gives a tight hug with little moisture in her eyes. The same gets repeated while leaving home with added moisture in the pair of eyes. Oh, did I tell you the toughest part for me. It's holding the tears and feeling and giving hug back just to comfort her a little.

Not a single day passes by remembering the last hug on the day 2 of year 2010 with little more tears in eyes and the unsaid words of don't go. I wish I had turned to look her back by not overthinking of looking back will make her cry more.

I never knew that was the last meeting I was going to have. The last conversation on March 19, 2010 (unfortunately, I am good at remembering dates) discussing when are we meeting next with her unclear voice. She said, I'm little unwell. She lied, she left the very 5th day. She lied to me of meeting me soon. And the most regretful event of my life that I couldn't meet her for the last time. Over the years, I have explained to my mind - it was just the circumstance that I was not informed, but my mind never agrees. The fight between my mind and heart is never ending.

Well, with time I just got used to it and hug her every single day virtually. That's what I can do now. After studying few articles on hugs, I realised why it impacted me a lot. Hugging leads to oxytocin hormone release which is a feel good hormones. It also helps in reducing blood pressure and good for heart.

So, out of all emotional story, my point is do not miss chance to hug your loved one's which helps you build positive relationship with that person and is scientifically proven. Sometimes, a silent hug is all one needs. Closing now in hope that one day, someone will hug me so tight that all the broken pieces will be joined.

Sweet conversation

She looks at me and say - KissMe!!
He thinks for a while and replies - KuchBhi.

The hidden meaning gives the access to everything. It has played an integral part of my life.
Now, it has been 3 years, we exchange the same conversation atleast once a day.

P.S. - KissMe!! is the network name and KuchBhi. is the password of my wifi.

Love - To be said or expressed?

Though I'm a 9 pointer (oh yeah, show off of no use), I consider myself to be the weakest in the subject of LOVE. To those of you know me closely would have agreed to the above statement one time or the other. But, when I asked myself - Really? I had no straight answer to my question.

One of my mentor taught me - Whenever you're solving complex problem, go to the basics. I applied twice in this case. I first googled the literal meaning of love which answered me: Love is a strong feeling of affection. I was very convinced by the statement and started connecting with my surrounding.

To my surprise, in most of the cases love was all about saying I LOVE YOU and giving gifts on every occasion, killing flowers to show your love alive. Reminding by saying - Baby, I love you, I care for you and so on. While in most cases, I found saying above statements are the substitute of not loving or caring literally (not always though). Disclamer - Don't ever think I don't love you or care for you if I say I Love You! :)

Few cases increasing the complexity of the problem statement, I went back to basics again for the second time and thought for a while with my eyes closed (little dramatic, I know). I figured out that to me, the strongest feeling of affection could be seen a mother taking care of her baby with no conditions of saying I love you, gifting, etc. She expresses her affection with the best possible way. I wish all relationships can be made as pure as that. You need not always say, instead, express in the best way you can. These days, love is confined mostly between gf-bf but I feel love is equally important to be expressed for all your friends, family, crushes (not really sure about this though), etc ;) One of the ad defines closely to what I'm trying to say, spend a minute for Jo zimmedari nibhate hai, zataate nahi :)

This is purely my personal thoughts. It may not match with yours and I'm not enforcing any thoughts on you. I would just say that even though I don't say I Love You, make it a point - I really do and will continue to do so by my best way I can.
You just take care of me, I will take care of everything else.