There was an awkward silence for few minutes even we were sitting in front of each other for few minutes. Then he started "Beta mai tumhari shadi ka soch raha hu", I smiled and allowed him to complete. I was confident enough to start. Thanks to the mock interview I had the previous day. I started with politeness and tried to convince him. The best part was that he listened to me very patiently. Both kept their points and we both agreed this is not the best time for my marriage. Yes, this was the longest conversation on a serious topic with my father. After exchange of many emotional and thoughtful dialogues, we both were happy that we talked frankly and discussed our points.
After our conversation, he himself started to speak in my support and told all family members and his friends about the conclusion. I never knew my father is so cool.
The conversation led to another set of thoughts regarding life, marriage, career. Obviously all comes with some positive and negative.
When in school: Homework was biggest issue.
When in college: Assignments and exams were biggest problem.
When in job: Complex problem in work.
Then suddenly real life popped up and said: B*t*h please!!
When you compare the problems in life with other problems, it really looks big. The only difference comes in how beautifully you tackle it.
Out of several problems, the major problem in mid twenties is marriage. I shouldn't say this as a problem but I am bound to say this because of indian society. When we talk of marriage, the first thing pops up is Arranged or Love. If you think of Love marriage, you're not allowed to love to whom you really love, and in Arranged marriage you're bound to love whom you never loved.Weird society pressure.
No matter how many romantic movies one's parents have seen but when it comes to real life love marriage of their son/daughter, they are mostly against it.As per the statistics, only 8% indians marry their love, rest marry someone's else tentative love (if given freedom to love). I don't have any personal experience of which one better but I always wish there should be freedom to choose one's life partner.
After our conversation, he himself started to speak in my support and told all family members and his friends about the conclusion. I never knew my father is so cool.
The conversation led to another set of thoughts regarding life, marriage, career. Obviously all comes with some positive and negative.
When in school: Homework was biggest issue.
When in college: Assignments and exams were biggest problem.
When in job: Complex problem in work.
Then suddenly real life popped up and said: B*t*h please!!
When you compare the problems in life with other problems, it really looks big. The only difference comes in how beautifully you tackle it.
Out of several problems, the major problem in mid twenties is marriage. I shouldn't say this as a problem but I am bound to say this because of indian society. When we talk of marriage, the first thing pops up is Arranged or Love. If you think of Love marriage, you're not allowed to love to whom you really love, and in Arranged marriage you're bound to love whom you never loved.Weird society pressure.
No matter how many romantic movies one's parents have seen but when it comes to real life love marriage of their son/daughter, they are mostly against it.As per the statistics, only 8% indians marry their love, rest marry someone's else tentative love (if given freedom to love). I don't have any personal experience of which one better but I always wish there should be freedom to choose one's life partner.
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ReplyDeleteSunny sunny sunnny.....tu itne din se yeh likh raha tha.... Ha ha... Waisei liked it... Its really gd..
ReplyDeleteLove or arranged. Marriages suck. ;) Anyways nicely written
ReplyDeleteNever experienced. But I think you're saying this through your keen observation :p
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