The power of Communication

What do we say to the god of death?
Not today! - Arya of Game of Thrones 

Have you ever had a bad day. You came back home from school/college/work and then a 30 second call with your loved one's uplifted your mood and calmed you down? 

Have you ever had a great day. You felt something is missing. You then talk to your loved one's and suddenly your great day gets the sense of completeness?

Well, that's the power of communication. 

Starting with the topic of communication, the best person with whom you shouldn't miss the conversation is YOU. In today's world, most of us are so busy and messed up that we forget to communicate with the best person in the world, i.e., ourselves. I recently read a wonderful book - The Power of Subconscious Mind in which the author has beautifully mentioned how our mind influences every single aspect of our life. Our communication with ourself by sending the right signals in form of thoughts can do wonders. There are proven examples that if we communicate our wishes or willingness to do something, it can be achieved easily. So, one should never miss to convey the message to oneself with the thoughts they have. You never know, your subconscious mind might do it for you effortlessly.

There is no problem in the world (not sure about India-Pakistan issue) which can't be solved with effective communication. World leaders are solving the nuclear issues, trade issues, climate issues, etc with communication on different forums. Even tough situation between countries gets solved by visiting of leaders and talking for couple of days. With the power of social media, it has become so easy to communicate our thinking with anyone and everyone in the world.

If such big problems can be solved, then we should be rest assured that our life problems can be solved too. The very start to the solution of our problem is talking to your closed one's. A lot of cases of depression are on rise just because we're bottling up. We don't open because we fear of being judged or maybe we think nobody would understand. But, that fear can lead to other issues which in my personal experience is even worse.

Whom should we talk to incase there's a problem? 

In few cases, it is not even a problem if you change the perspective but for us it seems to be the biggest problem of life. You can talk to a person you're close with. That person can be your parents, siblings, friends or even a random person or thing (duck algorithm in which you try to explain your problem to a duck and while explaining the situation you find the solution by yourself). If nothing works, consult a counselor. I personally have undergone issues which seemed unsolvable to me and talking to a counsellor who was a stranger too gave me a comfort to open up. With time, communicating whatever was bottled up helped me cope up well and my problems got minimised and I'm now having peace with my mind. The whole point is communication is very important whenever there is a problem.

With that I don't mean that you shouldn't talk whenever there is no problem. One should always keep the relationship alive by talking to your people. It's just a matter of hi. 

I recently watched an amazing video #talktothem which I loved. I recommend watching it.

Also, do remember, I'm always there for you for any conversation.

What do we do when we have a problem? 
We communicate! 

Death - The uncomfortable word!

Success ke baad ka plan sabke paas hai ... lekin agar galti se fail ho gaye ... toh failure se kaise deal karna hai ... koi baat hi nahi karna chahta. - Chhichhore

In recent times, I saw several movies on taboo subject and it has been great to know one has started opening up on issues they never discussed. One such taboo is Death. 

In 19th century, people were well aware and confronted on this topic openly as life expectancy was around 48 (in 1901) and they planned for living life better by being aware of the fact. Since, world has seen two world wars, people have been hesitant in discussing death.

I'm sure, we all agree that death is the ultimate truth of life. We see almost everyone is talking about life - healthy food, exercise, mental well-being to avoid the unavoidable but it feels uneasy to even touch the topic of death. Why are we so ignorant of the fact that we have limited time with us?

Since childhood, we're taught to deal with different situations in life but the thing which we're not taught is how to deal with loss. That loss in form of death can have devastating impact on a person - emotionally and financially.

We plan for our education, job or business, marriage, kids, their education but mostly miss on the death of self or the loved one's. One may argue, why think too much about death rather we should focus on living life. I agree to certain extent but what if you loose someone in the mid of living your life and you're not ready for the consequences. For most of the people, being ready is restricted to having term insurance plans. Have you really thought of the emotional aspect of it? Monetary loss can be recovered but can you do something about person's loss PERMANENTLY? Have you ever thought how your life would be without that person or any plan to deal with it?

Having lost my both parents at very unexpected time, I personally have gone through loss. The most important elements of my family, i.e., my parents are not with me. I don't recall even a single instance discussing about what happens after they are gone. Both the times, my emotional self was at stake. I touched the lowest in my life and I lost the purpose of living. All I could hear from others was - Be strong (trust me, nothing hurts more than these two words). Why couldn't I handle the loss? Well, I don't think there is any particular method in which I could have dealt with it better. But, I strongly feel if we would have talked about it like we generally talk about what should we do in life or as simple as planning a vacation, it would have been little better. State of denial that it can't happen with me and unpreparedness (no exact way for embracing the impact) but atleast being aware that death of loved one's is one of the things that needs to be fit in living one's life.

This topic might seems little uncomfortable to many and one should value the presence of their loved one's. One should never leave a chance to express the feelings how much you actually love them. Try to live life to the fullest and create good memories together.

To the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure. J.K. Rowling