Setting Goals of Life

1 year 4 months 12 days back I joined IT world. Since then I have been setting new goals and finding ways to do it. But throughout the journey I forgot to set and achieve my life goals. Through introspection, I realized that I am not even sure of my expectations from my life. So weird! What are my personal goals? What I want to achieve? How I want my future life to be? Well, I am still asking myself for the answers.

I still doubt if someone really thinks of setting up goals for their life and work on achieving it. I believe no one really does that. Are we only supposed to meet our goals in office for our appraisals? I don't think life goals and work goals are same and if both are different why do we only concentrate on latter. May be we are so involved in work goals that we never think of life goals. Do we really need life goals? My mind says: Yes, life goals are much more important. Obviously, achieving work goals will make you rich but achieving life's goals will lead to internal satisfaction and happiness. When you grow old, life goals is what will make you happy. If you forget to achieve those, you will always regret and wish to be back to the past and make changes for better future.

So why not start right away to think for your life goals and give your best to achieve it. Even if you will achieve a small goal of life, it will make you much happier than happiness which comes from earning. Many would not agree on my thought but I would suggest re-think. 

Setting goals of life:

• Visualize yourself at the age of 60-70 years
• Think what you wanted in life 
• Once you get the answers, try to figure out the way to achieve it
• Give your best to achieve it and avoid all distractions

No dream is big, if you can dream, you can achieve it too. :)

Just for you

"I will miss you" "Please stay in touch" "What will I do without you" "I love you so much" "Don't forget to invite me in your marriage" "We will meet sometime in future" "I wish we could stay in the same city"......

Some or the other sentences were used by us (all my friends) in last few days of college/school. But when I think over it, I feel, I am not in touch with many of my good friends. Unfortunately, promises were not kept for many. I don't know the exact reason but I guess everyone is so busy in their own life that they don't get time to meet or talk or text their very own friend of past.

Ohh thanks to facebook/whatsapp for allowing me to "stay in touch"  (not more than 10% of the list) . But when it comes to meeting old friends in person,the %age will drop down to less than 1% . In technical terms, friends are like elements in our life queue. The older one gets out of the queue with time and newer keeps on joining. I wish I could increase my queue size to stay in touch with all my friends at a given time. I know it sounds geeky but true. I so much wish to meet each and every one of you in person and relive all moments.

At every stage of life, I used to think I will never lose contact with my friends but then I realised even the beautiful swan decays and so is the friendship. May be it's not true in your case but I have experienced this a lot. The one's who were very close to me are the one's who never exchange a word with me.
I wish I could meet and enjoy with all my friends as before. Change is the law of nature but I hate the distance in beautiful relationship, i.e, friendship.
On a serious note, I love you and I miss you (Yeah...You are right..! Each and every one of you my dear friend). Looking forward to see you soon. I am sure you will make an effort for our contact as well. :)

Weekday & Weekend balance

So silent! I can even hear the tick tick of the wall clock. The weather is cool and the tiny rain drops are kissing the mud and the smell of it is refreshing. Its so calm.

Current situation makes me think how different is our life on daily basis. On weekdays, we are so busy in our work. I feel like on weekdays we serve others and on weekends we serve ourselves. When we are overloaded with work we desperately wait for the weekends. And on weekends, if we complete our enjoyment (sometimes people need more time during weekend) we feel like going back to work.

I think balance of both categories makes life smooth. If we experience the balance of calm and busy days, we would have life next to perfect. Even if one type dominates (having vacations, no work or vice versa), the life would be 'Total syapa'. The final conclusion as per mathematics is we should have 3.5 days work and 3.5 days vacation. I guess many would agree on it. Not sure who can make the above rules to be followed strictly. :p

5 sweethearts

To my 5 sweethearts-

Ankhe khuli toh mann me ek khauf ka leher utha,

Khauf badha toh “mrigank” se ansu bhi jag utha.

Ek “sapna” jo khubsoorat “shailly” se

“sahil k patharo par “ankit”a hai

wo kahi samundar ki uchi lehro se kho na jaye.

Ye dosti jo jivan ka ek khaas hissa hai, wo kahi kal yaado k diye naa bann jaye.

Darr iss baat ka hai ki aaj jo itna khaas hai, kal kahi itihaas na bann jaye,

Darr iss baat ka hai ki aaj jo mere sath hai, kal kahi kisi aur k sath na ho jaye,

Darr iss baat ka hai ki aaj jo mera pyara hai, kal kahi kisi aur k pyara na ho jaye,

Darr iss baat ka hai ki aj jo kadamo ki duri par hai, kal kahi lakho ki duri par na ho jaye.

Iss darr ne hi mujhe sone naa dia aur –

Ankhe khuli toh mann me ek khauf ka leher utha,

Khauf badha toh “mrigank” se ansu bhi jaag utha.

Ek prediction – Dosti hamari hamesha sun(ny) ki tarah shine karegi (via Shailly)

                                            ~Sunny Verma                                                 (29/11/12)

Railway Crossing

Last night, on the way back to home, I was very frustated as I had to stop at Railway Crossing. My bike speed stepped down from 67 kmph to 0 kmph. The rod which was blocking me from crossing was just 2 feet away from me and I wanted it to open asap so that I can reach home and have food and then relax.

Suddenly, my brain pointed me to the memory of my school days. I used to face Railway crossing every next day while returning back home. Similar situation but different environment. I am sure every ex-student of Holy Cross would have experienced this.

In 5min of waiting duration at crossing I recalled my school days. Every time me and my friends encountered Train passing infront of us, we used to count number of bogie in that train. Still I don't know, why we were doing so every time. Another thing I recalled was we believed that if we put an iron block on track and train passes by on it, it will turn into magnet but we never tried it. Everytime a guy had fight with other guy, his favourite dialogue was 'Crossing par dekh lunga'. It was such a wonderful time in school.

We always wanted to grow old in order to earn and enjoy the luxury by our own money. But now when I look back,I wish I could go back and enjoy my school days. Re. 1 samosa and litti was much better than Rs. 100 pizza today.

In short, I really miss my school days and will always miss it. I love each and every of my dear one's who were part of my wonderful school time. I know I am not in touch with many but I always hope to see you again.

Finding YOU in YOUrself

'I am going to meet my friends/relative/colleague/girlfriend/boyfriend'. Have you ever thought of meeting yourself ? If yes, that's great but if not, you have missed the chance to meet the best person in the world.
There are times when we get frustated or irritated or confused for some reason and we look for help from someone. Mostly, you don't find that someone and if you find you may not get proper solution to your problem. Whom should we meet to get the best answer with 100% availability? The answer is YOU.

I have seen people helpless and confused about future. They search
for answers of their interest from others but if they 'Self Evaluate', they themselves can find answers and instead of following people blindly they can make their future on their own. Meeting oneself a day  can give answers to 'What's wrong or right ? What should I do in certain situations ?' and lot more.

So, discuss with yourself to get the best out of you. For those who think that they are good for nothing may get to know that they are the best by talking to themselves. Try to find original YOU in YOUrself...!!

Sunny with Honey

College days are the best days of one's life. We do wonders and stupidity in college. So here is an example of such stupidity. A small poem written by me in initial days of my college life.

My name is Sunny,

I had no money,

I was with my honey,

On a date which was funny.



We had a heavy lunch,

Lunch followed by munch.

The time came to pay the bill,

But my heart became still.

My day was very bad,

Because my Honey became sad.

The Loss

If I ask you - " Have you ever lost anything" ? You will say YES for sure. Loss can be in terms of money, relationship, loved one's. Any loss impacts an individual very badly. It sometimes take a moment or days or months or years to neutralise the effect of loss but the little amount of sadness remains forever somewhere in the corner of the heart.

I lost my mother, I lost a beautiful friendship, so the pain of losing is well known by me. Sometimes, you just feel like crying and make yourself relaxed. You lose focus on your aims. Nothing seems good. Whole world seems useless. You feel like the whole world is with me but with whom I wanted to be is not with me. The feeling of emptiness is weird.

There comes a time when you feel like- "Lets end up thinking about losses and start up with a new page". Here comes the toughest part. The more you try to forget something, the more you will remember it. Remembering something is much easier job than forgetting what you had once. You can try techniques like weep out your tears, share with friends or family, write it and flush it, etc. But until and unless, you self-evaluate and make up your mind, you will never be able to recover from the loss.

Simple theory is- "Gain so much that you forget what you have lost". And the joy of gain is what will make the difference in life. CELEBRATE IT..!!

Exchanging dreams and reality

Exchanging dreams and reality.
Sometimes, we see a nice dream and say to ourselves - 'I wish this was a reality' and sometimes we face such horrible situations that we think - 'I wish this was a dream'. But mostly we are not able to convert our  dreams into reality and vice versa. We wish so many things in life that we forget to enjoy what we have and continue wishing what we don't have. Ofcourse, turning dreams into reality is possible but not by wishes but by hard work and determination to achieve the dream. Also, if we are going through bad times, instead of wishing for it to be horrible dream, we can fix the problem or deal with our best efforts.

Instead of saying 'Kash aisa hota, kash waisa hota' , implement it and prove yourself that your action speaks more than your words. Try your level best to accomplish all good but feasible dreams. Whatever bad happened can't be changed but can be modified for better or will help to connect the dots in future.  Make the best use of life. Be happy and keep smiling and if you are capable of being happy in any situation, you are living a wonderful life :)